Yintoni Eso Thethweyo Ngokwahlukana Ethethini?

Yintoni Ebhayibhile Eyithetha Ngokwahlukana?

Mathewu 19:1-12

NguRev. Mike Osborne

Akuba uYesu ezigqibile ukuthetha ezi zinto, waphuma eGalileya, waya kwisithili saseYudea, kwelinye icala loJordane. Iinqwaba ezinkulu zamlandela, wabaphilisa apho. Abanye abafariseyikazi bazayo kuye ukuze bamvavanye. Bambuza, “Ngaba kusemthethweni ukuba indoda ihlukanise nenkosikazi yayo ngenxa yayo yonke nayo yonke?”

“Anifundanga,” waphendula, “kwasekuqaleni umdali wabenza indoda nenkosikazi, wathi, ‘Ngokwesi sizathu indoda iyakushiya uyise nonkosikazi yayo, ihlangane nenkosikazi yayo, babe ngenyama enye’? Abasakabi babini, ngubani. Ngoko, into uThixo abayidibanisileyo, mayingahlulwa ngabantu.”

“Kwa nina,” bambuza, “kutheni uMoses wabuyala ukuba indoda inike inkosikazi yayo isatifikethi sokwahlukana, iyale?”

UYesu waphendula, “UMoses wavumela ukuba nihlukanise neenkosikazi zenu kuba iintliziyo zenu zinzima. Kodwa kwakungekunjalo kwasekuqaleni. Ndithi kini, ukuba indoda ihlukanise inkosikazi yayo, ngaphandle kokungathembeki komtshato, itshate enye inkosikazi, iyakwenza ubulalekazi.”

Abafundi bakhe bathi kuye, “Ukuba imeko leyo phakathi kwendoda nenkosikazi, kungcono ukuba ungatshati.”

UYesu waphendula, “Ayinguye wonke umntu okwaziyo ukwamkela eli lizwi, kodwa abo bamkela. Abanye bangamakholwa kuba bezalwa benjalo; abanye benziwa benjalo ngabantu; abanye baye bazilahla zitshathele ngenxa yombuso wezulu. Owamkela eli lizwi makalwamkele.”

Ithamsanqa likaThixo.

Ngokuqinisekileyo ubenokuya kwimitshato emininzi, njengam. Kwaye kwindawo ethile, phantse kwimitshato yeyiphi na, kuqekethwa imifungo. Umkhwenyana uyakuthi, “Mina, Joe, ndikuthatha, Mary, ube ngumfazi wam, nendithembisa ndingathembisana phambi koThixo naba baboneleyo ukuba ube ngumyeni wakho olithandayo noluthembekileyo- kwintabalalo nasekuthandeni, kwintshabo nasekuhluphekeni, ekuguleni nasekuhluphekeni- solange sihlala.”

Ngubomi, ukuba izibalo zisondelelana nokuchaneka, uJoe noMary banokuthi, emva kweminyaka emihlanu, isixhenxe, ishumi, ishumi elinhlanu, amashumi amabini, okanye nangaphezulu, bagqibe ukuyeka. Baya kuxelela abahlobo babo ukuba batshata bengakabomkhulu. Baya kuxelela ijaji ukuba babenomahluko ongatholakaliyo. Baya kucacisela umntwana wabo omncinci ukuba ayisosikho sabo, kodwa uMama noDada abasakwazi ukuhlala kunye, kwaye kuya kuba ngcono ukuba uDada ahamhe. Kwaye ngoko entshaba enye iyawa kwilitye lokuqhawula umtshato.

Amashumi mane amahlanu ukuya amashumi amahlanu ekhulu lamazwe onke atshatileyo aphela ekuqhawuleni umtshato. Kodwa njengokuba uninzi lwenu lwazi ngokuthe ngqo, ukuqhawula umtshato akupheli nto. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oko kuhlala kunzima—emali, ngokweemvakalelo, ngokomoya, ngenzenteko, kwanezehlakalo.

Abanye benu bacinga ukuba ayinokwenzeka kuwe. Abanye benu abangatshatanga bacinga, “Oh, ndinokuthi, ndinokuqwalasela ukuqhawula umtshato.” Abo benu batshatileyo kwaye betshatileyo ixesha elide banokucinga ukuba ningaphezu kwengxaki enjalo. Kodwa ndingathanda ukwazi kusasa: akukho mtshato mnye kule gumbi ungenakho ukuqhawula umtshato. Ukuba utshatile, kodwa ngenxa yenceba kaThixo, ubuya kuba sele uqhawule umtshato namhlanje.

Kwaye ukuba uqhawule umtshato, ndingathanda ukukubuza kusasa—musukuba baleka kule ndawo. Musukuba vumela umtyholo okanye ihlazo likugqithise. Kuhle kakhulu ukuba sithethe ngalo. Sinabantu abaninzi abancinci ecaweni yethu, abantwana abaninzi, abangatshatanga, namaqabane atshatileyo. Oku kufuneka kube yingxoxo esinokuyenza ngokukhululekileyo nangaphandle koloyiko.

Kwaye nokuba isono sakho sigalelo kuqhawulo lomtshato, makhumbule oko kwathi kankqzi kuthethwa ngaphambili namhlanje:

UKhristo uyithethisa ingxolo enkulu yomthetho. Uyicime intshaba yaseSinayi. Wawashe ngeGazi Lakhe, yena ubonisa imimoya yethu kuThixo.

Inceba inkulu, abahlobo—inceba inkulu kunokuqhawula kwakho umtshato.

Oko ndikuthanda ukukwenza kusasa kukuzisa izinto ezintathu. Sisekwiseri yeholide ebizwa ngokuthi iMpendulo Zingqinileyo zeMiBuzo Yonk

Kwa hiyo tutakabiliana na hilo. Na ninataka kufanya mambo matatu:

1. Ubunifu wa Mungu kwa ndoa. 2. Idhini ya Mungu ya kuachana. 3. Maneno machache ya matumizi.

Hebu tuzame.

1. Ubunifu wa Mungu kwa Ndoa

Ufasaha huu uliosomwa ni mojawapo wa mahali pa msingi katika Biblia nzima ambapo mafundisho ya Bwana juu ya ndoa, kuachana, na kuoana tena yanawasilishwa. Ni muhimu sana.

Mazingira yako katika aya ya 3. Tazama Biblia yako. Inasema Mafarisayo walikujana kumwjaribu Yesu. Walikuwa wakijaribu kumfanya apate shida—wakijaribu kumfanya afunge mguu wake, wakijaribu kumfanya akang’anyie sheria ya Musa na kumfanya aonekane mjinga mbele ya umati. Kwa hiyo walimuuliza, “Je, inakubalika kwa mwanamme kuachana na mke wake kwa sababu yoyote na kila sababu?”

Kulikuwa na shule mbili za fikra katika siku za Yesu—shule ya kihafidhina na shule ya kiliberali. Kama ilivyo leo, unaona wahafidhina na waliberali wakiwaandamana kwenye mikutano ya hadhara kuuliza maswali yaliyokusudiwa kumfanya mgombea aonekane mjinga na kuyumbisha kura. Vile vile, Mafarisayo hawa walijiandamana mbele ya Yesu kwa sababu walijua kuwa kuna upande wa kulia na wa kushoto katika suala la kuachana.

Swali lao lilizunguka kifungu cha Agano la Kale—Kutoka 24. Maneno muhimu katika kifungu hicho ni “kitu cha aibu”. Halisi, kwa Kiyahudi, inamaanisha “kitu cha uchi” au “kitu cha uchafu”. Ni vigumu kwetu leo kujua haswa Musa alichomaanisha. Mahali pengine ambapo neno hilo linatumika linarejelea, kwa vyovyote vile… taka za binadamu kambini. Kitu cha uchafu.

Shule ya kihafidhina, ikifuata Rabbi Shammai, ilisema “kitu cha aibu” lazima kiwe dhambi ya kimapenzi—uhaini wa ndoa au uzinifu. Shule ya kiliberali, ikifuata Rabbi Hillel, ilisema inaweza kuwa karibu na chochote ambacho mume haitaki. Kama mke alichoma bakoni, anaweza kuachana naye. Kama alipata uzito, anaweza kuachana naye.

Kwa hiyo Mafarisayo wanakuja kwa Yesu na kusema, “Kwa hiyo Yesu, je Hillel yuko sawa? Anaweza mwanamme kuachana na mke wake kwa kuchoma bakoni—kwa sababu yoyote na kila sababu?”

Kwaye uYesu uyala ukuthatha icala. Endaweni yoko, ubabuyisela eGenesis 1 no 2.

“Ngaba akufundanga,” uithi, “kwasekuqaleni uMdali wabenza indoda nenkazana… yaye ababini baya kuba inyama enye? Ngoko, into eyenziwe nguThixo, mayingahlulwa ngabantu.”

UYesu uthini?

Uthi umtshato ngumanyano weenyama enye, ongapheli, phakathi kwendoda enye nenkazana enye—umanyano obopheleleyo, ongapheli, owahlukana kuphela ngokufa. Yilo uyilo lukaThixo.

Qaphelani amagama angundoqo:

Umshumayeli 6: umtshato ngumanyano—umanyano lwabantu ababini nguThixo.

Umshumayeli 5: umtshato ngukumshiya nokubamana. Indoda nenkazana ziyawishiya oodadewabo, zifungisana phambi kukaThixo nezitshingiselo, zingenela ubudlelwane obutsha obozibophelela ndawonye njengomncuncun. Apho babengabantu babini ngaphambili, ngoku banenye.

Ngoku, ndiyazi ukuba yinto eyimfihlakalo. Kunzima kuthi ukuyiqonda. Ihlala kancinci njengaye uThathu enye. Sikholelwa kuyeThixo enye—enye inhlanhla, enye uThixo—kodwa kubantu abathathu. Abantu abathathu abahlukileyo kwiThixo, yaye nokho banye. Umtshato unje: ababini babe enye.

Okanye cingisisa ngeVelcro. Kukho uhlobo lweVelcro olomeleleyo, oluthi, xa lucinezelwe ndawonye, lube yinto enye. Umzekelo, umtshato. KwiSivumelwano somtshato, uThixo “ucementa,” umuntu, indoda nenkazana ndawonye ngendlela enjalo, ngaphandle kokuphulukana nobuntu babo, babe kwenyama enye, umuntu enye, kwasekuqaleni kombhiyo.

IRomans 7:2 ithi ukuba umfazi otshatileyo ubotshwe kumyeni wakhe. Ingcamango efanayo—ukubotshwa, ukunamathela, ubumathothobala benyama enye. Oko kuthetha ukuba banobudlelwane ngendlela yonke. Babelana ngakho konke. Bathetha ngakho konke. Abafihli nto. Bathatha izigqibo kunye. Basokola kunye. Baphumelela kunye. Basileleke together. Bana njengabantu ababini abangonwabanga kunye—hayi nje kuphela ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa nangokweemvakalelo, nangokwengqondo, nangokomoya. Ngamanye amazwi, baye omnye komnye umngani osenyameleyo. Omnye komnye umhlobo osenyameleyo.

Kwaye yiyo loo nto uThixo awathi wamisela umtshato kwasekuqaleni: ukuze ahlangabeze imfuno yethu enkulu yoluntu yobuhlobo. Oko akuthethi ukuba umntu ngamnye ubizwa umtshato, kodwa abantu abaninzi bafumana umngani wabo osenyameleyo ngaphakathi emtshatweni.

Kwaye ke kuko ukondivorce, ngoko, kuchasene nenjongo kaThixo. Yahlula abantu ababezijulele ukuba bahlale kunye ubomi bonke. Ukondivorce, unokuthi, kukusikwa—ukwahlula umntu omnye komnye. Ukwahlula okubuhlungu kwezinto uThixo awathi wadizayina ukuhlala kunye.

Abanye benu bayazi ukuba malunga nonyaka omnye kunye neenyanga ezintandathu ezidlulileyo, ndenze i-ACDF—ukusikwa kwe-disc yentshonalanga yomlomo wesib cervical kunye nokuqhoboshela. Ndandine-disc enye ephumke phakathi kweC6 neC7 enentanyeni. Bahamba ngomlomo wesib—ndixolisa ukukwenza ube nomsindo—basusa i-disc ephumke, bafaka iqhekeza lombatshana ukudibanisa imigongo, baze baqhoboshela ipleyiti yensimbi ukubamba yonke into. Ngoku cinga umntu othathe ipleyiti yensimbi yaza yamsusa entanyeni. Akucingi. Buthukali. Kabi. Yiyo loo nto ukondivorce kufana nokwahlula okubuhlungu kwezinto uThixo awathi wadibanisa.

Ngoku, unokucinga ukuba ngenxa yolwimi oluqinileyo lukaYesu, yiyo loo nto le ngxaki iphela. Yakuba utshatile, akukho ndlela yakuphuma. Ukondivorce akukho mbuzo.

Phosakele.

Ngenxa yokuba uYesu, eMathewu 19, uyaqhubeka athi zikhona iixesha xa ukondivorce kuvumelekile.

Into engileyo ndifuna ukuyenza kwimizuzu embalwa ezayo kukubonisa ukuba uYesu akayali thethelela ukuqhawula umtshato, kodwa akaphindi akugweba. Akayali ncoma ukuqhawula umtshato, kodwa uyavuma. Kukhona umahluko omkhulu.

Jonga imiBhalo 7, 8, neye 9. AmaFarise abuza, “Kutheni ke uMoses wathuma ukuba umyeni anike umfazi wakhe isatifikethi sokuqhawula umtshato aze amxoshe?” UYesu uphendula, “UMoses wavumela ukuba niqhawule umtshato neemfazi zenu kuba iintliziyo zenu zazingqinile. Kodwa kwakungekunjalo ukususela ekuqaleni. Ndithi kini ukuba naliphi na eliqhawula umtshato nomfazi wakhe, ngaphandle kokungathembeki konyaka, aze atshate umfazi omunye unyaka, uyakwenza ubulalekazi.”

Qaphela amaFarise afumene into engalunganga. Bathi uMoses wathuma ukuqhawula umtshato. Akazange enze into enjalo. UDuteronomi 24 yayi ngumthetho wetyala. Yathatha ukuba ukuqhawula umtshato kungenzeka kwathi, “Nantsi into omawuyenze ukuba isenzeka.” uMoses akazange aqalise ukuqhawula umtshato; wayelawula. Kwaye uYesu wabangcwele: uMoses wavumela ukuqhawula umtshato.

Abanye benu banokumangaliswa ukwazi ukuba zikhona iimeko kwiBhayibhile apho uThixo abonakalisa ukuqhawula umtshato. KwiEzra 9–10, uThixo uyathuma amaSirayeli ukuba aqhawule umtshato neemfazi zabo zangaphandle. KwiMathewu 1, uYosefu—obizwa ngokuba “ngumuntu omilungileyo”—ebefikile ekucingeni ukuqhawula umtshato noMariya ngobufutshane. Kwaye kwiTestamente Endala, uThixo ngokwakhe “uqhawula umtshato” noSirayeli ngenxa yobukhosi bakhe obuphindaphindiweyo (uHoseya 2, uYeremiya 3, nabanye).

Cinga ngesitya esihle se china—esibizayo, esithandekayo, esifanele ukugcinwa nokuhlonishwa. Ukuthi akufanele yaphulwa akuthethi ukuba ayinakuphuka. Kwaye ngendlela efanayo, ngelixa umtshato ufanele ukugcinwa nokuhlonishwa, zikhona iimeko apho ibhondi yomtshato inokuphuka.

Ungabuza, “Nini na loo bondi yomtshato inokuphuka?”

Nantsi impendulo: ngaphandle kokufa komtshati—and ndingakucebisi ukuba uzame oko—zikhona iindlela ezimbini ibhondi yomtshato inokuphuka.

Khuluma ngomcimbi wokuqala: ukungathembeki kwentsatshaba. Yiloo nto ibinzana elisemvini 9: “Nayiphi na indoda eyahlula umfazi wayo, ngaphandle kokungathembeki kwentsatshaba, kwaye atshata nomfazi omnye, uyakhalela.”

Lo mshumayelo ubhlangwa kangamakhulu eminyaka. Mande ulwenza lula kangangoko.

Kukhona amagama amabini esiGrike kwivesi 9 afuneka uwaqonde.

Ibinzana elithi “ukungathembeki kwentsatshaba” liguqulela igama lesiGrike porneia—ingcambu yamagama ethu anobuhlalu. Ligama lesiGrike elijikelezayo ngomono wesini. Igubungela ukuthwala, ukungathembeki, ukulala, ukungathembeki kwabantu obangaabantu, imihlambi, ubuhlalu, nayo yonke into ebonakalisa ubuntu ngaphandle kobudlelwane bomtshato phakathi kwendoda nomfazi.

IPorneia ikwasetyenziswa ngokufananiseka eSkriphtsheni ukuchaza ukungathembeki kukaSirayeli—ukungathembeki kwakhe eNkosini. Yiloo nto iNIV isebenzisa ibinzana elibanzi elithi ukungathembeki kwentsatshaba. IESV inembile ngakumbi kwaye isebenzisa ukungcola ngokwesini.

Khangela ukuthi: iporneia yiyiyo nayo imisebenzi yokungcola—ingakumbi ngokwesini—eyophula umanyano weenyama omnye phakathi kwendoda nomfazi.

Elinye igama lesiGrike kwivesi 9 ngu moicheia—igama elincinane elitshoyo ukungathembeki, ukusondelana phakathi komntu otshatileyo nomntu ngaphandle kweqabane lakhe.

Kwaye uYesu uthi kule ndima ukuba xa indoda okanye umfazi wenza imisebenzi ethile—imisebenzi eyophula okanye eyenzakalisa loo manyano one inyama esithetha ngaye—iqabane elikhubekileyo lingafaka isicelo sokwahlukana. Oko akuyi kuba kukwahlukana okonayo, nangona isono sibangele ukwahlukana. Uyabona? Ukwahlukana ngokwakho kuya kuba yinto efanelekileyo, nangona isono yinto ebangele.

Ngoku, lo ndoda okanye umfazi akufuneki afake isicelo sokwahlukana. Ukwahlukana akuyaliwa; kuvumelekile. Kwaye ukuba ukwahlukana kwenzeka ngenxa yesono sesini somntu oyedwa kwabalingani, iqabane elingenasono, uYesu uthi, lingatshata kwakhona—kuba umtshato ugqityiwe. Ukuba isiqephu sokukhusula kwivesi 9 sihlangatshezwanga, iqabane elikhubekileyo lingatshata kwakhona.

Ngenxa, imibuzo yohlobo zonke ingavela ngoku. Umzekelo:

Ngaba umntu angahlula iqabane lakhe elinengxaki – umzekelo, ukulutha kwezinyezinto, njengokujongwa kweempundulu, ukugembula, into enjalo?

Okanye uze kwenzeka njani ukuba iqabane lakho lithe lekufumana ingxaki yothando olungakumbi?

Ukuba i-porneia ligama eliqhelekileyo elinokusetyenziswa kuzo zonke iintlobo zokungathembeki, ngaba ingasetyenziswa kwizinto ezinjalo?

Nantsi impendulo yam: mhlawumbi… kwaye mhlawumbi hayi.

Masivume, bahlobo, ukuba intliziyo yomntu iyakhohlisa ngaphezu kwayo yonke into. Siyonke ngokugwenxa, nesono siyakutsala kuthi ukuba sizame ukwenza ubulungisa ubuliso bethu. Kungenxa yoko le nto singakwenzi oko. Asifanele kwandisise uluhlu lwezono ezingaphantsi kweli lizwi elibanzi okanye elingokomfanekiso le-porneia.

Kodwa ngaxeshanye, abahlobo bethu kwi-PCA, emva kokufunda ngokubanzi, benza iphepha lesikhundla elithi:

Ukuba umntu ube yinto yokulutha kwezinyezinto – ukulutha, imikhwa, ukuziphatha okungakumbi – ezi zinto zibe yinto endaweni yokufeza amalungelo omtshato womsphe,

ke zinokwethorwa njengento yokuphula umanyano lomzimba omnye.

Yitsho ukuba, yona, kufuneka ibe phantsi kweeseshoni – i-elders zethu – ekufakeni kwabo imigaqo yebhayibhile. Umgaqo osikhokelayo kufuneka ube yinto yokuba isono siyaphula na umanyano lomzimba omnye.

Ngakuhle, masipheke apho. Ndithe ikhontracti yomtshato inokuphukiswa ngeendlela ezimbini. Indlela enye yi-porneia – Mathewu 19:9 noMathewu 5:32. Enye indlela i 1 Korinte 7.

Kungenxa yoko, masivule ukusuka Mathewu 19 ukuya 1 Korinte 7. I Korinte yileta esibhalwa nguMpostile uPawulos. Jonga imiBhalo 1–9. KwiimiBhalo, uPawulos uyavuma uGenesis 1 no2 malunga nesipho somtshato kunye nobuhlali bomanyano lomzimba omnye.

Emva koko, kwiimiBhalo 10–16, uPawulos uthetha kumaqela amabini.

1. Abakristu Ababini Abatshatile [vv. 10–11]

ImiBhalo 10–11 ijongana nooHubby noziNdlovukazi abangabakristu:

“Kwabo batshatile ndinika lo miyalelo (hayi mimi, kodwa uYehova): Umfazi akakufanele ukuba ahlukane nomyeni wakhe…”

Loo gama ahlukane liyafana nelithi utengwe.

UPawulos uthi ukuba yena uhlukana, kufanele ahlale engatshatanga okanye abuyelane nomyeni wakhe. Kwaye umyeni akakufanele utengwe umfazi wakhe.

Qaphela ukuba uPawulos akaphindaphindi isiqephu sokukexception uYesu wathi ngoMathewu 19:9. Akakufanele – kungathathwa njalo. Kodwa wongeza into entsha:

Ukuba utengwe lwenziwa ngenxa yesinye isizathu ngaphandle kwe porneia, umyeni nomfazi kufanele bahlale bengatshatanga. Lelo lityala lokutengwa kwab sinful. Ukohlala ungatshatanga kuyagcina ithuba lokubuyelana – yinto efanelekileyo.

2. Umshatfo Ohlangeneyo (vv. 12–16)

Kwiivesi 12–16, uPawulos uthi umshatfo omnye isatshatile sinomKristu omnye hayi.

Uthi ukuba umyeni ongakholwayo uzimisele ukuhlala nomkholwayo, umkholwayo akakufanele afune utengwe ngenxa yokholo lwakhe. Ngokwenene, uPawulos uthi uThixo angasebenzisa umkholwayo ukuletha umusa wekhitsh contract kuloo ndlu – nokuba yisindiso.

Kodwa khangela kwivesi 15:

“Ukuba umngani ongakholwayo ehamba, makahamba. Indoda okanye umfazi okholwayo abophelelekanga kwiimeko ezinjalo. UThixo usibizele ukuba sihlale ngoxolo.”

UPawulos ufunda ukuba umyeni wakho ongumKristu akukhohlwayo, awubophelelekanga kuhlala kuloo mshatfo. Ungatengwa. Lelo litengwe elisemthethweni. Kwaye ngokufanayo, ukhululekile ukuba utshate kwakhona, ngenxa yokuba umshatfo uphukile.

Kwaye ukulahla kwakho umkholwayo ngumngani ongakholwayo yisizathu sesibini esenza utengwe luvumelekile. Utengwe alunakuba sinful, nangona isono sibangele.

Kwaye, ngenxa yokuba ukuqhawula umtshato kuvumelekile, akusho ukuba yinto echanekileyo yokwenza—okanye yinto yodwa yokwenza. UThixo angayiphilisa imilinganiselo emibi. Ngamanye amaxesha isimo sakho sokuxolela, umoya wakho wokuzincila, ukuzinikela kwakho kwinto ezilungileyo zomnye umntu yinto ebakhokelela ekutheni aguquke.

Kodwa Yintoni Eyabhalwa Njengo “Ukushiya”?

Kanye nengo porneia, imibuzo eyongezelelweyo ivuka. Ngaba “ukushiya” kunokubandakanya ngaphezu kokushiya nje ngoko mzimba?

Abacabangi abaninzi bama-evangelical bathi ewe.

Kanye, iphepha le-PCA lithi ukushiya kunokwenzeka “ngokubeka iimeko ezinganyamezelekiyo kunye nokuhamba ngokwakho.”

Kodwa makhulu ukulumkisa: hayi nayiphi na into ongayithandiyo kumyeni wakho enokubandakanywa. I-PCA ithi ngokulumkisa uluhlu lwezono ezilingana nokushiya “lukhulu kakhulu.”

Ngamanye amaxesha uThixo usibiza ukuba sihlale kubudlelwane obubuhlungu. UPetros ungosikhumbuza kuPetros 2 ukuba uKristu wahlupheka ngenxa yethu, eshiya umzekelo. Xa babeliphosa ngolwimi olubi, akazange abuliphize. Xa ehlupheka, akazange asenze zizo ziso. Wazithemba yena egwebe ngokuqinileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha loo nto iyabizwa kuwe ebudlelwaneni obunzima bomtshato.

Kodwa izinto ezifana nokuhlukana ngokwasemzimbeni, ukungathembeki, ukusela utywala okanye ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi, ukhohlokhohlokho, umsebenzi wobugebengu, ukungabakho, okanye nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha eyingozi kuwe okanye kubantwana bakho—ezi zinto ngokuqinisekileyo luhlobo lokushiya. Kwaye nokuba loo myeni wakho uthi ungumKristu, ukuba uyaziphatha ngokwesigxina kwindlela enjalo, ngamanye amaxesha uyaziphatha njengomuntu ongeyena umKristu kwaye ufanele aphathwe njengoha.

Into ephambili apha kukuba abalderi becawe bamele babandakanyeke.

IBhayibhile ayithethi ngayo yonke into. Ayizukuthetha ngenkoba yeziyobisi ngokuthe ngqo. Kufuneka sithathe imigaqo yebhibilikhi, siyisule ngomthandazo, sifune isikhokelo sikaThixo, kwaye senze esona sigqibo sikhulu esinako.

Isishwankathelo

Kodwa yintoni esifunde namhlanje?

– UThixo akazange aqalise ukuqhawula umtshato; uvumelekile, uyanyamezela, uyayilawula.

– Uqhawulo luhlala luvela kwisono, kodwa uqhawulo ngokalo alisono.

– Uqhawulo luphelisa umbanda womtshato.

– Xa omnye umntu ephika umbanda ngenxa yokungcola ngokwesondo (porneia) okanye ukushiya, uqhawulo luvumelekile.

– Apho uqhawulo luvumelekile, ukutshata kwakhona kwyena osulungekileyo naye kuvumelekile.

Ndiyaqiniseka ukuba abaninzi baniwe nawabuzwa imibuzo. Ndingathanda ukutshi: masithethe. Kunzima ukugubungela yonke le nto kwesinye isikhulumi. Ukuba ufuna ukuhlola ezi zinto, okanye ukuba uchaphazelekayo ngazo ngoku, masithethe.

Thina njengejama siyakhathalela le ngxaki. Siyakhathalela wena, kwaye sifuna ukukhulisa imitshato eyabandayo. Ngako oko ndingathanda ukunika amagama ambalwa okugqibela – izinto omele uzikhumbule.

Kuqala, khumbula le nto ndiyithethileyo kwangoko kule ntsasa: akukho mtshato mnye apha ophulukene nesiqhawulo. Kufanele wazi. Kufanele uhambe ngendlela yomtshato wakho ngekratshi, usazi ukuba u vuleleke kwizono zonke.

Kodwa ukuba ufuna ukwenza umtshato wakho ube njengesiqhawulo esingenzeki, into yokuqala ndiyokuthi yile: qiniseka ukuba ulandeli kaYesu. Qiniseka ukuba ungowakhe uKrestu kwaye uzibophelele kwicawa eqinileyo, esempilweni, ekholelwa iBhayibhile.

Mhlawumbi uvile izibalo ezithi uqhawulo lixhaphake kakhulu ecaweni nakwihlabathi. Oko kunokufaneleka. Izifundo ezingcono zibonisa ukuba xa sithetha ngabantu abazibopheleleyo kuYesu, abathatha inkolo yabo ngokunzulu, ababandakanyekayo a ecaweni yabo bazibopheleleyo, izinga loqhawulo lehla kakhulu. Kukho isizathu sokuba: uMoya oyiNgcwele ukwazi ukukhulula – ngokholo kuKrestu, ngabageli, kunye nobandakanyeko lwakho kunye nemifrathe yakwa-ndodana – ukunqoba ezi ngxaki.

Okwesibini, ukuba utshatile—okanye ukuba uza kutshata ngenye imini—maka uhlonele amazwi: iqabane lakho lizimisele phantsi kukaKristu phambili kuwe. Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukwenza umtshato wakho womelele ngangokunokwenzeka, kufuneka ulungele ukutyala imali kuwo.

Kufuneka uhlale neevele zothando. Amadoda namawele, kufuneka nihambe ninyane. Kufuneka nichithe ixesha kunye. Kufuneka ube nemida ejikeleze ubudlelwane bakho. Kwaye kufuneka usebenzise zonke izibonelelo—konke ukufundiseka, konke ukubhukisha—ezinokukunceda ube ngumyeni ongcono okanye uwele.

Okwesithathu, soloko mninika uThixo ithuba lokwenza umsebenzi omangalisa. Soloko. Ndibone imitshato eyayibonakala ingenathemba ijike ngokobab graciously kaThixo. Ukwahlukana kufuneke okokugqibela. Ngaphambi kokuba uyekele, yenza konke okunokwenzeka. Chonga izinto ezikuzisele kule ndawo. Guquka kakhulu ngenxa yezono ozenzileyo. Thandazani kunye nomcengele uThixo akunike umoya wokuxolela nenceba yokuphilisa. Xolela njengoko uThixo akuxolile. Cengele abahlobo bakho bathandaze baze baposele ngenxa yakho. Yiya kwingcali yengcebiso.

Kwaye into enye: babandakanye abalusi. Ukuba ukhathazekile ngomtshato wakho, wozise thethise omnye wabapostoli. Mababalusi bakweluse. Ukuba ukwahlukana kuba yimfuneko—kwaye abambalwa kwenu baye bafumana ukwahlukana—kepha yenza oku: phumla eluthandweni lukaKristu. Phumla eluthandweni lwakhe uze uqhubeke. Qala ukwakha ubomi bakho kwakhe. Sazi ukuba sihlala kwilizwe eliwileyo apho ngamanye amaxesha izinto zingabi ngcono. Gquma ngenxa yasezulwini. Gquma ngenxa yomhlaba omusha, apho izinto ziya kuba ngcono.

Khumbula kwangoko namhlanje ndithe uThixo wahlukana noSirayeli. UThixo ngokwakhe wafumana oko. Kodwa yiva oko akushoyo eHoshea 2:

Ndithi ke ngoku ndiza kumhena; ndiza kumkhokela entlango yaye ndithethe naye ngobubele… Ndiza kumqatshishela kuwe ngonaphakade; ndiza kumqatshishela kuwe ngokulunga nobulungisa, ngothando nenceba… Ninu bantu bam, yaye baya kuthi, "Wena nguThixo wam.”

Kungenxa kaYesu – kungenxa kokufa kwakhe emsalbeni – ukuba wena nawe ningazi ukuba ukuqhawula umtshato akusiyo ilizwi lokugqibela.

Masithandaze kunye:

Yebo, uYesu, siyabulela ngokuba sifundisile ngokuqhawula umtshato nomtshato nokutshata kwakhona. Siyabulela ngesiko lomtshato. Siyabulela, Bawo, ngokuba wenza umtshato ngenjongo yolonwabo kunye nenjongo yoluntu.

Bawo, sithandaza omnye komnye apha. Sivuma ukuba akukho namnye kuthi ongafanelekanga. Akukho namnye kuthi onokuma ngalo mfakazi. Sonke singoni. Sonke sesichengeni sokuwela.

Kunabantu abaqhawule umtshato ecaweni yethu abasaziva ububini balo. Kunabantwana abaqhawule umtshato ecaweni yethu – abantu abakhulele bengabani utata okanye oonakhulu, okanye ekhaya elaphukileyo.

Yebo, uYesu, siyabulela ngokuba wena unako ukubuyisela iipuzzle zethu. Siyabulela ngokuba wena unako ukuthatha umtshato owonzakeleyo uyenza ibe yinto yonke kwakhona. Siyabulela ngokuba wena unako ukuthatha abantu abaqhawule umtshato bayenzele kakle, uwanikele ngobabalo olukhulu kunazo zonke iingxaki zethu, zonke iimpango zethu, yonke imiqobo yethu.

Bawo, ube ngumyeni wethu namhla. Ube ngumyeni wale nkosazana, iCawa.

Siyakucela oku egameni likaYesu. Amen.

Umfundisi uMike Osborne wajoyina abasebenzi beRTS Orlando ngoMatshi, 2019, njengoDean omtsha wabafundi. Uyasebenza njengomlawuli weMfundo eSebenzayo kunye noBekezelelo, anceda abafundi beMDiv njengoba belungiselela ubushishini bephuli yevangeli. Ukongeza uMike ufunyanwa rhoqo ekilasini, efundisa iilabhoratri zokushumayela kunye neeklasi zokubonisana ngomsebenzi wabasobomvu.

Eli nqaku lisekelwe kwisicatshulwa esivakalayo sentumeko nguRev. Osborne. Ihleliwe kancinci nguCopilot, kunye nabasebenzi benkolo e Third Millennium Ministries.